Is it OK to Go Back to Your Old Therapist?
Making the choice to return to therapy is a significant step in taking care of your mental health. When you’re considering this option, you might wonder whether to reconnect with a previous therapist or start fresh with someone new. Let’s explore the key aspects that can help you make this important decision.
The Comfort of Familiar Ground
Many people find comfort in returning to a therapist they already know. Think of it like reconnecting with an old friend – there’s an established understanding and trust that makes opening up feel more natural. You won’t need to spend several sessions explaining your background or family dynamics, which means you can focus on your current challenges right away.
One client shared, “Coming back to my previous therapist felt like picking up a conversation where we left off. We could get straight to what was bothering me without the need to rebuild that foundation of trust.”
When Returning Makes Sense
Going back to a former therapist can be particularly beneficial when:
- Your previous therapy experience was positive and productive
- You’re facing similar challenges that your former therapist helped you with
- Life circumstances (like scheduling or location) that led to ending therapy have changed
- You feel a strong therapeutic connection with this professional
Important Questions to Ask Yourself
Before scheduling that first session back, take time to reflect on these points:
- What led to ending therapy initially?
- Have my needs or goals changed since our last work together?
- Does this therapist’s approach still align with what I need now?
- Am I choosing to return out of comfort or because it’s truly the best option for my current situation?
A Fresh Start vs. Familiar Territory
Starting with a new therapist might be more appropriate if:
- Your therapeutic needs have shifted significantly
- You’re looking for a different treatment approach
- You’ve moved into a new phase of life with different challenges
- The previous therapeutic relationship had limitations or complications
Making Your Decision
Take these practical steps to make an informed choice:
- Reach out to your former therapist for an initial conversation
- Schedule a single session to evaluate the fit
- Be clear about your current goals and expectations
- Trust your instincts about what feels right for you
Remember that there’s no wrong choice – both returning to a former therapist or starting with someone new can lead to positive outcomes. What matters most is finding the right support for where you are right now in your life journey.
Moving Forward
Whether you choose to return or seek someone new, the most important step is continuing your commitment to mental health care. If you’re unsure, many therapists welcome a brief consultation to help you determine the best path forward.
Consider your current needs, comfort level, and goals as your primary guides in this decision. Just like any relationship, therapeutic connections can evolve, change, or come to natural endings – and that’s completely normal.
Remember: This information serves as a general guide. Your specific situation may require different considerations, and consulting with mental health professionals directly can help you make the best choice for your circumstances.
Dr. Maryann B Schaefer Psychotherapy
Ph.D. – Counseling, Concentration in Psychology
NYS Licensed Mental Health Counselor
Fellow of American Psychotherapy Association
Phone: (516) 627-1145
Email: drmaryannschaefer@gmail.com
5 Travers Street Manhasset, NY 11030
Office Hours: By appointment only.